Wednesday, December 1, 2010

How to deal with fears

If we ignore our fears they grow like a fungus and eventually can take over our lives.

It's easy to sit around and fantasize about what we want. The hard part is going after it.

Fears need constant attention and maintenance. Fear is like dust. You can sweep it away but it keeps coming back.

1. Face your fears. Sit with yourself and figure out what your fears actually are. Write it down and face it. The sooner you deal with them, first by giving them some attention, the sooner they will start to fade.

2. Talk about your fears. Not to everyone you meet, you'll sound like a Looney Tune. Talk to your friends and family. They love you. You trust them. It's a safe place to let it out.

3. Stop complaining about everyone else. Very rarely is it someone else's fault that you don't have what you want. Complaining about other people may be fun in the moment, but it wastes time and takes away from your issues.

4. Have compassion with yourself. You're not a fear-busting machine. These things take time. Have compassion and patience. You'll get there.

5. Practice yoga.

6. Eat well. You can't get over your fears if you have bad habits, especially when it comes to food. Start eating healthy today and fuel your body for fear-busting.

7. Smile. we have to balance out our seriousness with silliness. Smile, if only it is at yourself in the mirror. It's good for you.

8. Write down your plan. Keeping a notebook of ideas, lists and goals is great for overcoming fears. It's fun to cross off your accomplishments too.

9. Stay you. The best thing you have going for you is being yourself. The moment we try to be like someone else we are taking away from our own greatness. Just be you. That's so much better than good enough. That's great.

10. Keep dusting. When you overcome a fear or achieve a goal it's great to be thrilled and celebrate, but don't stop there. Keep going and you can go as far as you allow yourself. You are in charge of everything in your life. Everything you are. Everything you do and everything you will do. So might as well start now.

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